why Facebook is bad for relationships
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by Incastreasures.
The social networking site Facebook puts its users abreast of the activities of their contacts, but also can be a poison for relationships and, as revealed in a recent study, is increasing jealousy and tensions between their supporters.
According to the department of psychology at the Canadian University of Guelph, Facebook may lead to serious situations of jealousy with his continuous flow of information about what we do, who are friends and what photos appear.
After all, who would not ever wonder why a former boyfriend or girlfriend is among contacts of your partner? Or who is that blond or blond-appearing in a very friendly attitude in the photos of our husband or our wife?
"Facebook allows access to information that would otherwise not agree and this information often lacks context," he told Efe Amy Muise, one of the managers of the study at the University of Guelph.
The social network "is exposing more people to triggers of jealousy," he added.
The study, conducted among several hundred students of which a third were women, showed that social networking site Facebook can lure us into a spiral of distrust.
Thus, a banal comment on the profile of our partner made by a contact of the opposite sex can lead to suspicion and closely monitor their Facebook page ... only to find more information feel even more suspicious and jealous.
"Feelings of insecurity about your partner may cause behaviors inquisitive and Facebook is easy access to this information," said Muise.
In many cases, the "spy" can not even control what appears on their profile or can not quickly enough.
Did you have problems with your couple because of Facebook?
See results without votingIf an ex-boyfriend writes a comment on our wall or label us a
photo, it may take some time before we realize it ... enough for your
partner first and see what a fight erupts.
Muise says that psychologists and sociologists are beginning to
understand how social networks affect personal relationships and cites
the case of a woman who discovered that her boyfriend had broken up
with her because she changed her Facebook status to "single."
After all, the Internet social networks are a relatively new phenomenon that still somehow we are adjusting.
Although today is already more than 250 million members, social networking site Facebook,
for example, was until just three years ago a business network confined
to the U.S. academic community.
Today, almost everyone we know are members of the network,
including current and past our spouses, our bosses and coworkers and
sometimes even our parents.
And so we continue to belong to the club at all costs, even if
some masochism in seeing how our virtual cake groom sends his ex for
his birthday.
"Facebook has become pervasive, especially among the age group of
our study," said Muise. "Therefore, having a presence on the network
can be an important aspect of our social life"
"The social networking site Facebook environment normalizes share information about us
and access information from others, including our partners. And do not
belong to the group may seem socially very risky," he added.
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For many, however, the popular social networking goes too far.
A group of five Facebook users in California this month filed a
lawsuit against the social networking site claiming it violates privacy
laws of this state to disseminate private information about its users
without properly informing them of this.
It is not the first time the company, based in Silicon Valley is
facing complaints or criticism from their users by how it handles
private data, and earlier this year amended its rules of use to give
users more control over their privacy.
The recent lawsuit has, according to experts, unlikely to succeed
with success. Yes, Facebook disseminates information private, they say,
but is not precisely what we wanted when we became members?
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i hate fb its the devils creation i hate it
I think it makes people more empty than normal there will be a time when people wont know each other as real humans
i think its amazing, stfu
I deleted my Facebook account, and I am now feeling more connected to real people I meet during my day. Facebook created the false impression of an active social life, but it's a complete illusion. The numerous photos's of "friends" tends to make us believe these people care about us, but that reality could be better measured by how many times we get together to see a movie or have lunch together. Facebook is also bad for single people, crushes may just gaze at our picture and imagine a connection instead of spending time with the real "us." I believe Facebook is an acceptable form of stalking that we all seem to enjoy. I did, for a few months, but then I began to craze REAL people. Bye-bye Facebook, Hello Human Beings!
facebook is good but needs to have car games where u can do them up and more
somehow with facebook i feel i can connect my family more effectivly than mobyle phones so i love it,
I agree with joy. I just deleted my facebook account because I found it is so easy to get jealous and can damage many friendships, by feeling left out and not important. I have even been bullied. IT makes you feel like you have an active social life but an active social life is connecting with people in real life. I think facebook is a recipe for disaster. I admit it can be fun but I find the negatives are so horrible the fun parts don't matter any more. I think if you don't use facebook you have so much more time too. It is hard because almost everybody has fb so it does make you different, but who said that's a bad thing? I think in many cases it is better to be.
facebook is bad !! When I start to play facebook, my grade have gone down a lot. So, facebook must be the cause for my poor grade !! I hate facebook..!!
Just deleted my FB page and wasn't a member a full year yet. It was fun being able to connect with old friends and family members that i lost touch with. Just got tired of being questioned every time someone wrote one my wall or if i posted a comment on someones page.
I deleted my partner of 9 years from facebook as i could see future problems. Our relationship is stronger and we totally trust each other without spying.we dont need to show our relationship to the public. its private.
Facebook is nothing but a false world where people login just to take their anger out on others without actually doing or saying anything in person. Things get way out of hand when there is no imediate consequece for "trash talk" behind a keyboard. I just decided to delete my facebook account due to the fact that my fiance and I are about to separate because of facebook. She never deletes anyone off of her friends list which creats an idea to her exs that she still has feelings for them. She goes on saying "oh their just my friends". But you cant really be sure what their motive is trying to still be your friend. If i offend anyone by saying this im sorry. But as a guy i understand that most guys think with the lower half of their body and will say and do anything to satisfy their craving. In the real world we dont comment on the cute girl we see walking by due to the fact that she is with her boyfriend. Why? Because in real life we understand that it is wrong and that there will be a
consequence. When your sitting behind a keyboard just typing away you dont stop and think about the effect it will have on the other party. I know so many relationships fall apart because of a couple flirting guys on facebook. My own relationship is falling apart. If there was a way to take facebook down entirely im positive i would vote to shut it down
How sad is it that people cant go through the day without posting something on Facebook? One woman I know cant go to the zoo with her family without telling the world that she is there. Another was on her first date with her husband after having her baby. She couldnt even get through the date without posting something about it. Whats worse is they cant even see how sad this is. No one really cares about your every move or thought. I think its a magnet for insecure miserable people.
favebook is shait
facebook is gay
i dont know fb is good in one way and its also bad in the other way...........
i dont know fb is good in one way and its also bad in the other way...........
Facebook is evil taking up ppl's time getting hooked and relying on it too much and not getting on with life. My partner is doing this leaving the page open while studying waiting for emails and comments not getting stuff done and staying up till all hrs of the night. Dam social networks....thats my view everyone is different.
Facebook is a media. I use it to post media. Original Music or spoken word comedy rants. Charcoal sketches I scanned. Photoshop works intended to poke fun at celebrities or act as visual 'posters' of real or fictional events. Creative stuff. Its a good way to post original MEDIA without having to build your own web site. I'M SO SICK OF EVERYONE I KNOW POSTING EVERY PARTY PIC, BEACH PIC, RECOVERY STATEMENT (well, allright, if it helps). People from a previous era saying hi . . . I couldn't stand you back then . . . Now, your gonna kill me with your love. Get lost. Hit the pike.
Jealousy amongst couples is understandable. You should see the disaster Facebook is causing among my wife and her friends, all in their late 30s and early 40s.
I know that Facebook is actually just a network, and it's the people that make it what it is, but when one, just one person decides to not join Facebook and their entire real-world network of actual friends joins and they all take their entire social lives on to Facebook, because Facebook is walled-in and exclusive, the person who is not a Facebook member is entirely excluded from their group of friends. The living breathing humans who they see at work, at event for their children, down the street, at the grocery store, etc. When you're excluded from the group, you become jealous, suspicious and are no longer a part of the fast developing secret world of FB.
So here I am, the husband of a wife who keeps a blog, has a twitter account and is on parent forums on Y! Groups, yet decided to not join FB because, well, she does things elsewhere, and now we learn that her friends have literally formed a secret FB club, seriously, a SECRET FB club! among grown women, and if you're not on FB, then you're not part of the club! And then we hear that one member said "if you're not on FB, then you need to get over yourself." WOW.
Anyway, here I am Googling "facebook bad for relationships" and it seems apparent only to those who are not on FB what the monster is really like.
What I hate is that, like for instance, I've met people on skype who I've spent years talking too without ever seeing their faces and then you find out they've got like fifty different other websites with even more women on it etc and you wonder why you spent any time being nice to such jerks when you realize by far that you aren't the only one they've friended. Just makes you look like a you know. I avoid facebook, myspace and all of them, never joined and never will. It's a major false reality and I've watched alot of women's marriages break up because of facebook. It's a bad omen.
"I know people who have a lot of money, and they get testimonial dinners and hospital wings named after them. But the truth is that nobody in the world loves them. When you get to my age, you'll measure your success in life by how many of the people you want to have love you actually do love you. That's the ultimate test of how you've lived your life." WARREN BUFFETT
This is why it is bad,
This is why it is bad,
I do agree, Facebook is definately bad for relationships. I deleted my account after 3 years. I was a fb addict, when I woke up, went to bed, during breaks I wanted to know what my friends were up to. And whats sad is that they do forget you quite easily when you go off. I'm also not part of groups anymore because I am not on facebook. which actually goes to show who is true friends. Because true friends will make a way to contact you, come and see you or phone. Not say well shes not on facebook so I can not have contact. I was shocked in seeing how my friends got less and less when I went off facebook.
I am still trying to rehabilitate from my addiction, but I want to save my relationship and this is where I began.
after 10 years my daft mrs got in contact and then went and stayed the night at a lads house. family wrecked , 4 boys now not living with me. silly cow, said she wanted a social life! fb is wrong...
This is just the beginning and only a slice of what is really going on. I am a relationship coach and I deal with the negative fallout of FB every day. I have personally witnessed the destruction of many relationships in the most public manner. It is simply irresponsible at so many levels. How do we even begin to protect our vulnerable children when their parents use a medium like FB to feed a desparate need for signifance at any cost?
I loved facebook when I was single, but things quickly changed when I got into a relationship. The guy I started dating didn't have a facebook until the mid part of our relationship. He isn't much of a social person to begin with, but I noticed a different side of him through his facebook page. He would always tell me that facebook was bad news and if I deleted mine, he would delete his. Things were good at first and no problems, until I noticed he had friended an ex girlfriend and girls he had never mentioned before. This of course caused many fights and now we are no longer together. I have deleted my facebook and he of course still has his. Facebook is bad news when you are in a relationship.
facebook is a waste of time.
Someone should do a study on relationships and facebook. Like a real scientific study that qualifies to air on the discovery channel. With at least 100,000 couples participating. I am 100% positive that facebook is NO GOOD for RELATIONSHIPS! If you are single it is the place for you. When you are in a relationship you are bombarded with useless information of your partner that can trigger a really bad argument. It takes away the fun of meeting up with someone for dinner. What are you going to talk about if you update your status every 5 minutes with everything that you do!! Pictures of everything, there is nothing to share when you meet up with a friend. It also brings temptation. You would get your ex's contacting you, good looking people hitting on you, you would probably friend someone you've NEVER been friends with and engage in flirting. COME ON!! Facebook is a land mine for horrible arguments and suspicions in a relationship. Relationships are filled with problems and you don't want a ton more from facebook.
How do I know this? I lived it myself.
I've been facebook free for 1 year and I now have a normal relationship. TRust me when I say this, you can live without facebook, try to come with a compromise with your partner to take facebook off for the both of you. Don't invade each other's privacy by having each others passwords. What if an Ex messages you and says how he/she misses the crazy sex you guys both had when you guys were together. Who the F$%#^ wants to know that! What if you hooked up with someone when you were broken up/ separated from your partner and this stupid ex comes out of left field and shouts you out and its something you know will hurt your partner even though you didn't cheat.
Facebook is horrible for couples. and yes, I agree facebook is a waste of time. And it puts things in your head that don't need to be there. Take care and I wish all of you a wonderful life filled with real facebookless love.
I broke up with my boyfriend because I found out he was cheating on me through facebook. People cheat with or without facebook but I do agree that Facebook is a haven of temptations and some people are weak.
I agree with you Ruth 100% You should start the study.
This is exactly why I don't want to make a facebook account. Although it's an attracting though.
I already have too much jealousy on my mind, I don't need extra.
I was in a relationship that most people wish they could be in. He was the love of my life, and we were just born for each other...and then there was facebook, now we no longer have that great relationship, we broke up. How heartbreaking!
Facebook becomes very interesting when you run into exes who still have feelings for you.
i think facebook is bad
don't use facebook for any other purpose other than to add family and close friends
don't use facebook for any other purpose other than to interact with family and close friends
adopt them 2 rules above and you will enjoy facebook
accept whatever comes your way, then face whatever comes your way
Facebook is bullshit application to spend valuable TIME in fron of PC.....
Show off & nothing else.....
Just now I deleted my FB account....
FB plays with human psychology...they gave me 14 days to reactivate...I m sure out of 100persons 90 reactivates withing 14 days...
but i m not going to do d same...
facebook should be banned or closed....
live life naturally...as given by God
The text was so true. Facebook, where all the lies, jealousy and conflicts began. Facebook also tends to make you think that you have a lot of friends, but in reality, it makes you forget just how many genuine friends that you got? And it actually hurts very much when someone just simply decide remove you from being a friend....
thank you facebook,
thanks for screwing my life up :(
count me out
I HATE FACEBOOK ITS RUINING THE WAY PEOPLE DATE. why are human beings so superficial.OH I AM SO ANGRY!!
i wasnt a jelous girl until i saw my man on there errday and dumb chicks still leave him messages even tho he's married and his statuas says so i think it's time to quit facebook!!!!
i had a wife yesturday now im upset lonely and dont no what to do i h8 my life but got to b strong 4 my family ans i she is never comming back i knew i should of got rid of fb ages ago well its fucked my life up ..thats all i got left now is fb so it is the devils work..money and misery ..please get rid of it b4 it kills to many people
I think it's because there's no privacy space on Facebook. Once you updated your status it's all ggoing to public consume.. and it's not good for relationship :)
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I thinks all depends how we use it. Let me tell you. My wife went on vacations to see her children. She visited nice restaurants and I did find out when I accessed her FB account. She trusts me with he password. I felt a bit left out because it seemed like she rather tell all her friends in FB before she shares her experiences with me. Here I am helping her with the financial and moral part of her vacations to be forgotten. Once again, FB is not the problem, it is just the way we use it. Weapons don't kill people...
Have respect for your girlfriend, spouse or significant other and FB will become fun.
Facebook was fun at first as way to connect with people you haven't seen in a while. But I agree that can be used as a substitute for a real face to face connection with people. At times I want to delete it for good.
I agree with a lot of this and it makes me think about my own FB activity. My whole thing is, if you are married or living with your significant other you should trust each other enough to have access to each others account and can go on and see their comments. Each of you should not be doing anything inappropriate and if you respect and love each other fully would not be doing anything inappropriate and would not be making comments that would cause any concerns for each other. If you want to be on these sites and lie about what you do on them or hide what you are doing or who you are talking too from your significant other then you are already playing around in you relationship and you should just stay single, because at some point your lies will come out and then you have jeopardized your relationship and may find yourself single anyway. My partner has exes from her past that she told me she dated a long time ago and they are friends. I am okay with that (although I don't have access to her account or know what they talk about which I admit does make me wonder) and I have to trust her. If she ever friended her last ex through FB or any other site, that would NOT be acceptable.
The fundamental question remains-who make a difference to your life - for me it's always been parents,close relatives,my life partner and "real" friends (for most people including me the list may not extend beyond 10 odd).
From my experience colleagues,classmates,fellow workers,distant relatives etc are just purely acquaintances and to be frank-it's not required to stay in touch beyond a particular time.A happy life is all about priorities and people who are the most closest to you should be your highest priority-not acquaintances.Facebook reverses the time-tested logic-it compels you to "friend" people who just don't make for a significant part of your life.I used to be on facebook but then i realized i was spending time with people who just didn't matter.I wasn't really interested in knowing what my fifth grade is doing or what my es-workplace colleagues are up too."Real" friends would always have their time, attention and affection for you-and in all cases without Facebook.Facebook has been a sheer waste of time for me,for a brief period while i was on active on it just drew me to a false world and overall has been just an empty avoidable experience.Like i did gladly,just do away with your Facebook account.Your real friends are just around you!!!And that applies for your relationships too!!!
I agree with everyone who disagree with facebook. Facebook is evil, and like a drug, it is good in the beginning. It is addictive and does nt make any good in eople's life . I read a very good points in here to explain in how mny level it is a destructive force. I am an ex Facebook user.I came here today to see if I would find people like me. Yes I also agree with a profound study. I am felling withdraw from being away from facebook. I have been losing "friends".Lot of strange situations happende to me, a friend of mine get mad with me because I left facebook...She keeping test me to see If I quit for sure...she keeps trying to challenge me to come back...It is so funny...I have been seen people changing personality.People now want to show how loved and normal they are....how happy they are....Facebook is life in a photoshop....a big lie...I feel realy funny about it...I am scare about how bad this can be for my family and friends...Facebook is a good fit for some kind of people...But I am afraid for the good people that are using it, or any social network...the problem with Facebook is that everybody is on it...What we can do about it?
I personally don't think Facebook is all that bad. In fact it's helped me with networking and also helped me find friends and family that I wouldn't have been able to find on my own. It's only horrible when you let it run your life by focusing on statuses to compare lives and wasting time on the only games. Although I do play the games, it's only once in a while. Lol everything in moderation, folks.
facabook is an utter waste of time.......
we cant find true frnds there......
its just a time pass........
I had a relationship yesterday, today i am a single father of 2.
If i ever see mark, i swear i will kill him!!
I deleted my account on numerous occasions and finally deleted 100% just the other day. My personal reason is many so i shall write off the list of why i deleted it.
1 People can use fb for personal reasons of manipulation.
2 It quite discusting to know how someone feels about someone else in real life and then add them on fb as a friend is awfull.
3 Nobodys life is that great, and creating a status when actually it is being used for lying is deceitful.
4 Status update - My life is so great, but in reality you are using this as a form of bull.
5 Just because you are friends with a certain someone does not mean anything.
6 Do you really want people to know about what you are doing?
7 Girlriends/Boyfriends have split up because of fb.
8 Pictures dont lie but they can appear to be something else and it is what you use them for is the ultimate question.
9 Bragging to people that they have blocked you is insulting and childish.
10 If you block someone on fb they tend to follow this through and not speak in real life...that is quite disturbing.
11 fb has become a tool for liers, mistrust, denial, manipulation.
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facebook ruined my mom and my brothers relationship...................
Fb ruined my relationship..my boyfrnd cheated me through fb we had relatn of 4 yearz...i wish ds fcebuk neva exstd...i mis hm a lot :(
I have no problem with fb. It's actually made for people like me. I grew up a military brat, so my childhood friends are scattered all over the world. I've.connected with 90% of them. I was never really close with most of them in the first place, but yeah I like to see how they are doing. My life didn't turn out how I planned, but I do still look good. For those having fb withdrawals, youitr issues lie deeper than fb. If there was no fb it would be tv, magazines, my space or something. Get your discipline up and get back on fb.
I am 21, at uni, have no facebook account and never will. People look at me like I'm mad when I tell them I don't have it, and while it may be handy for invites to gatherings and parties, I still get invites from the people who care enough to remember me, and that is what counts! If I was offered $1m to answer what pleasure people get from it, I wouldn't be able to because I honestly don't know...all I see are sad, jealous partners and friends becoming desperate, selfconcious and needy. Get off the FB account and actually talk to people properly.
I am 15 years old and I am the one of three in my high school of 800+ kids who do not have facebook. Sometimes I do feel left out and alone when I am trying to make real friends with others just because I am not friends with them on facebook. But I know that if I can break past this barrier it will create a proper real world realationship that is more deep than that can be acheived throughout using Facebook.
I get frequently asked on why I don't have FB and I tell them that I value real world relationships more than facebook relationships. I often get angry with my mates who are friends with some of my friends from others schools on facebook when they don't know them or may have never even spoken to them and yet claim to be "friends".
I just don't get it really. Why would you put yourself in such a position as to using facebook when so much can go wrong?! Can people be that insecure about themselves and their lives that they post it up for the world to see?
Is it insecurity that drives the girl to take a raunchy picture of herself so that she may get flattering comments from all the boys?
Is it insecurity that drives the boy to post picutures of himself skating because if he doesn't people might regard him as being a bad skater...Hence him posting the photos to look like a good skater?
Looking at my crushes profile on my friends phone I get jelous at the messages from other boys. I get so jelous and angry that these guys can just contact her at the flick of the wrist and say she looks "beautiful" when they may not even have the balls to say it to her in real life???
Risk VS Reward
Is Facebook really worth it?
I will never use this Facebook and its similar, because I don't about:
- Who is the creater?
- Why he created?
If I don't know the purpose of such web site , its stupidity to be a membership.
I will never strust Internet.
I don't need facebook to joint my parents or my brothers, I simply contact them directly even whithout phone every week at most. Life be more and more artifitial, the society become also virtiual and the feeling has no sens nowadays. I think we are more artifitial than natural. these are the fact of the media, facebook, twiterbook, blblbbook and no one known what is going on on this word. We have forgoten that the king of this word is Allah 'God' and we schould return to him, isnt it? life is very small, do good things to preserve your saoul from hell!!! the last day!!!
I hate facebook. I personally do not have one but my boyfriend does. I hate the fact that there are so many girls on their trying to bash on everyone. He has nearly all females on his "friends" list. He deleted it once because it caused us problems. But, he has it again. I think he's addicted to it. And a lot of other people are as well. I will never use facebook personally. Communication is better in person anyways. Who likes spending hours on a computer anyways?
Facebook is evil i lost my patner after 8 years she got lost in facebook and never come back .fuck this facebook.
There is nothing wrong with fb. Blame your woes on something else like you did before fb. Its here, make the best of it. We use discretion and lack of in every arena in life. You can bash fb, twitter, tv, sports, magazines, etc. As long as you maintain your set of morals you will be fine, like me.
From the day 1 i felt FB was evil
I registered to be able to send a message to someone.
I deleted after. After I learned to keep away for 14 days without sign in. And never thumbs if I see the logo.
Besides I don't get it. the structure is showing atoms like the founder learned the Kabbala. the lay out is so boring.
I find myspace so much fun with the music. It is fresher and allowing more fantasy.
Last I believe Fb is going to cause the Illiterate generation. Soon the face of the book will show that the book had no pages for no one could use the pen to write by hand.
Like anything else, it's all how you manage it.
its getting in the way of my relationship...
I deleted facebook along with my friends and pictures...im stromger! Take that facebook! Oh im getting all As in my school as well cuz i have more time to myself! If you delete facebook, you wont regret it!
i need to get rid of my facebook but i want him to delete his as well its stressing me out whats on his page or who should i say but i cant get him to agree to this im scared ima loose my man my bestfriend because of fb any one hav advice to get him to understand
fb is bad..its an illusion...online love& all...its not gud i added strangers & started getting involved....its bad...we tend for crushes...and false flirt & love....its bad...its better if we control ourselves on fb...i deleted it..& im very happy now in my real life
Facebook has caused relationship problems between me and my daughter and my other family members and past "friends". People can easily misconstrue what you post. With the absence of voice tone, facial expressions, and body language, the recieptient can take your post and turn it into something entirely different from what you are really saying. I hate Facebook. I think it's a very dangerous way of communication. If you are really my friend, you will contact me in other ways that involve a "true" connection. I'm so done!!!!!
facebook seeks to create an alternative lifestyle devoid of senses and at the expense of real relationships. It thwarts the reciprocal energy of human interaction and usurps it with unreal experience. For the one ones who have thier love interest its a platform where words can be misintepreted(just as someone said that it lacks expressions)so one can arrive at a different conclusion than what was intended. It also causes uncesssary anxiety and can hamper ones productivity. Its best use is to keep it limited.
i had just deleted my facebook pagre this morning because it was causing to many problems in my realationship. i have been with a guy for eight years and never cheated on him i was a good woman to him and took care of our four kids while he was always gone running the streets i got tired if his crap he was never home so i left him and moved to another state .. well while i was gone i found out that while we were together he had a facebook page and he had he was single and no kids and intrested in women he had went looking for ex girlfriends on facebook and and girls he was cheating on me with while we were together in his facebook .its so messed up because now that he begged me to come back and said he was sorry he still will not get rid of his facebook .i mean why does someone need to add people you dont even know onto their page and why is it that every time i was on my page he gets mad i just cant take it anymore..who in their right mind would post their phone number on their page he would facebook needs to get shut down.some people just dont know the differnce between the fake life and the real life ..some people are just that thirsty in life that they cry out for attention in every wich direction.. i hate facebook its making me want to leave him again.......i dont wanna be with someone i dont even trust with a glass of water.
Facebook=FAKEBOOK.LOL. . .
Just deleted allll my friends off Facebook and had a big grin on my face as I was doing it. I feel refreshed not looking at other peoples "fake" lives and hearing them brag about retarded things! I cannot close it down because I have a business page . So I have changed my name too my business name and put page after it.
Now it is only used for business. I became so obsessed with just checking it like emails, especially with an iPad I had easy access. Then I realized I started too put things on there too make me look like better and like I was living the "full" life. Well now I feel so happy dumping them!! Most I hardly talk too anymore in person, and now the relatives can not see my kids through photos- they're gonna have too actually see them if they want too be in their lives.
Facebook is making the world less social. I am noticing how everyone keeps too themselves a lot now and using Facebook as their way off keeping up with everyone . Sad. And I'm glad I've realized and left !!!!
The way I feel about this is just that we should use logic. Ready?
If you meet someone on Facebook, then you do end up getting married, chances are that your spouse will continue spending a great amount of time on Facebook and its a fact that couples break up when they are on Facebook.
Sooooooooooooo... its a good idea then to meet a REAL person in REAL life... so you dont end up marrying someone who spends all his or her time on Facebook, and you can have a REAL marriage.
I have seen married people on Facebook and its like they both are ON FACEBOOK chatting away with all kinds of idle chit chat instead of spending time with their own spouse, the way it SHOULD BE.
So just think logically. Do you REALLY want to be tied up with some Facebook addict in a relationship?
...NOT A GOOD IDEA.
I HATE FACEBOOK.... TOO MUCH DRAMA....BAD IDEA....EVIL
Wait a minute ... did someone force you to sign up to facebook? No. Stop crying and get a life.
I agree with DK. I am a Facebook user and I'm engaged to be married to another Facebook user that I met in real life. If your significant other is going to flirt or possibly be unfaithful, they are going to do it with or without Facebook; so I guess that makes all forms of electronic communication or any form of communication evil and the devil's work right? Grow up and stop being insecure. Communicate honestly with your partner about your feelings, insecurities and why you feel that way. Then maybe you'll care a little less about your Facebook and your partner will care a little more about you. Personally, I find Facebook an excellent method to keep in touch with my friends all over the world that defend your freedom to post stupid comments like you have. If not for Facebook it would be more difficult to keep in touch and to know whether or not they're safe.
*care a little less about your partner's Facebook.
Delete Facebook. Your life will be richer because of it. You and your friends will make the effort to see each other. Living far from each other? Sorry, but FB chat can never replace the joy of receiving a phone call, or an personal email with photos. You won't have to be confronted with photos of your other half's exes. You will filter out of your life the blah blah blah of a few hundred people, that, at the end of the day, you don't REALLY care about. Put your energy and time into REAL relationships and friendships. Don't have enough of them? Just go out and meet people in your neighbourhood/town/city. Chat to the people you meet. Be around real people, not around 'profiles' of people on the internet. It is so much more of a wholesome thrill to meet people in REAL LIFE than the addictive voyeurism of checking out someone on FB.
I deleted FB 7 months ago and I don't miss the drama. I have real relationships now, although not the 24/7 on tap 'relationships' that FB offers. That's OK that it's not 24/7. If I feel lonely I call up a family/friends or go out. It's organic, real connection.
In response to some people above - I do agree that insecurity causes the relationship problems (I'm guilty of this too) not FB itself. But I think the REAL issue with FB is getting lost in the massive maze of people and photos and status updates and slowly replacing the real human connection in our lives. FB is no substitute for this.
Just my two cents :P
- L
FACEBOOK HAS DESTROYED MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY PARTNER OF 7YRS. IT HAD LEAD TO DISTRUST INAPPROPIATE BEHAVOIR AND COMMENTS, ITS LIKE A DRUG WHICH REMOVES INHABITIONS WHICH ARE THERE TO KEEP US HONEST AND I HOPE OTHERS WILL GIVE IT UP FOR THE MORE IMPORTANT REAL RELATIONSHIPS WITH THE PEOPLE WHO REALLY LOVE THEM.
I hate insecure people. Married my wife because I love her, would be loyal to her, and wouldn't hurt her for anything. Now I am forced to defend myself because of facebook. sucks
facebook is for attention seekers. period.
It's awful. My guy didn't even hardly use fb when we started dating. Now he's on it all the time misinterpreting everything I do, say, like or whatnot -even public pages that he normally wouldn't care at all about he sees everything. So what if I am exploring feminist concepts? It doesn't mean I want to be single; it means I'm educating myself. So many misunderdstandings. I saw a totally jealous side of him. We can't even be friends on fb because if we are, I have no control over what he sees in the ticker. People have filters for friends, family, coworkers for a reason -because we wouldn't normally invite those people into parts of our lives. I can curse on one page that discusses rape and not necessarity want my bf privy to that info, but if it's public, he gets it in the ticker and I have no control? Bullshit.
facebook is very bad site for muslim peoples allah wont bless them if they use facebook christians are very bad worse of them if muslims use facebook they will go to hell this is truth truth truth truth please avoid facebook for muslims not for christians christians are very very very bad bad bad worse worse
I agree with the fact that Facebook is a fantastic tool for keeping in touch with distant family and friends. But we should not let it became a tool to 'run our life'. IT IS NOT REAL LIFE, JUST A SITE WHERE WE CAN POST PHOTOS AND COMMENTS.
I got upset because - somehow- the new format for facebook uncover some commentps that my partner had made to somebody else's comments about a movie. I read this long time after but upset me so much and we had a terrible argument! we dont see each other FB accounts anymore ( blocked!) but focus on our long standing relationship of more than 20 years:) I will not cancel my facebook account, i will use for what is intended for, to keep in touch with my distant family and friends, and i dont think it is evil, i think it is bad for couples to use it, there is no need to use when you are close! It can be a blessing for those like me, that have relatives in very far places.....
it is insecure site n keeps relationships untrusted due to chatting wall-to-wall and pictures...i dont deals much with it though i have an account..
I didn't get on facebook much, but when I did it felt hostile or fake, sometimes both. Girls endlessly talking about their "perfect" relationships, people fighting over a break up, melancholy comments I feel obligated to comment on, and so on. Why bother? Unless you have to use FB to talk to distant relatives/friends (only use I see for FB) I don't see how it helps anybody. It promotes jealousy, stalking, perverts, and unhealthy levels of narcicism in some people.
On the flip side, it does help some people with self esteem issues initially but more likely than not damages self esteem.
Fb causes pain, physical pain, psychological pain, jealousy, hate anger, and love for a few seconds, not worth the pain it brings, and by the time u realize wat uve done, fb has trapped u in a web of lies deciet and any other evil crap ppl can come up with, every hardcore fb user knows wat i mean, its awesome fr those that r twisted already, but fr normal good ppl fb is painfully unpleasant on the other hand users get wat they deserve
I agree with all comments against this behemoth in our on line world.its fair to say i had a facebook account and closed it within a yr,pointless wall posts etc,and general tripe.its a sad fact that facebook is every where we go ,although as yet its not found its way into my bathroom !we have become to dependant on this site to allow ourselves to become validated or create a sense of worth.yet what did we do prior to this social drug.we have a choice i agree but with so many users just playing silly games on there or posting pictures they have gathered from around the web just to get a like ! it does start to make you think is there a planet out there to enjoy or are we just tethered to a personal computer untill we are old and frail..and fingers dont work aswell as they use to..yes im blunt but facebook causes issues thats a fact and a bomb on its server would be a job well done..
Facebook certainly does take up too much time and has caused me nothing but grief recently :( I lost my girl because of her relationship with her ex on there :(
I've been online for about 15 years. I'm not young, I'm not stupid, I'd been through online addictions to chatboards and IRC, you name it - the earlier times of the net there was more experimentation, you could play with identity, as well as deeply connect with people on a ONE TO ONE basis.
Facebook has single handedly destroyed nearly all the diversity on the net. Where once you could wear a mask and play, Zuckerberg demands you be identified, tracked and forced to feed his empire - where you are the product, not the the customer - and if you refuse, you will lose a LOT. You will lose friends, information, invitiations, a whole social element to your life, cut off as if you were in solitary confinement - worse though, because in most cases your friends will goad and laugh at you if you refuse to buy into Zuckerberg's empire. They do not see the prison they are in because everyone else is there - so how can that be a prison? Ironic that those of us who choose to be outside actually are more in a prison now.
It really is like the worst sci-fi coming true, people are spoonfed gossip and drama as entertainment to lull them into complacency, but people's personalities have changed to become more fake, more narcissistic, more petty and vicious.
I miss the gentle hippie days of my youth where people would meet and exchange addresses, phone numbers, occasionally email addresses - but not FB profiles.
When someone's entire history can be laid out for you instantly, you've lost so much that you might have discovered slowly. It's like the destination is everything now.
I miss the journey. I want my friendships back, and I want more meaning to life than this.
Facebook. Reminds. Me. Of school. Your. In with the. Click. Or your not. People. Who LT care about. You can't hurt. You. Fb. Friends. Were people you used yo know. On school. So. There opinion. Shouldnt matter only your true friends. There's. Life. Outside. Facebook. X
He has all these females that he "went to highschool with" ..we've been together since we were 15 years old! If she is so damn important to be on FB friends list and deserving to make and receive comments etc, then why have I never met her or heard her name in passing conversation through the years?. And there is the "she was/is friends with my sister"Ok,in what way is that significant to you now? Be able to back it up, or rid of em. I have deleted my FB.But he knew the few nonshared people were on my list,and those he did not know were female,and I could list what role they played in my life and what events took place with them.Not give a defensive cover all but really nothing bs line. We all know the settings deal!!! Can block/restrict and delete away. "sissy's friend.or just that girl from highschool" seem to post lost of 'woe is me,I want to be loved,look at my body'posts and pics conviently available to friends only,and not restricting the marrieds.And obviously not minded by the married,otherwise the view newsfeed can be unchecked. Because I am the one that feels I am getting screwed over, of course I am going to say FB should only be used with caution, and with joint access, for keeping in touch with close friends and family only. In a marriage/relationship, I think FB contacts should only be the people that you would not mind having stop at your house on their way through town!!! And as far as relationships that are not sexual/family related: it's sad to find out how many of those people don't really care about keeping in touch via phone call,arranged trip,etc..not even texts. I am only 34, but I sure do miss the good old telephone and letter writing days!!! FB has made me a mess, my marriage a mess (one sided, I am the only one apparently bothered by it), and my "social life" a mess. Yeah, I know...only a tad bitter and in need of counseling hahaha
Facebook is a pathetic way for some people to bring attention to themselves. I was going to marry the love of my life, but he had to post very personal stuff (about him) including getting a catheter stuffed up his weiner just to get attention from girls who he hasn't seen since high school. Do I really want to marry someone so insecure and who needs such attention? If the tables were turned and I wrote about my hoo-ha and had guys commenting on it, he'd be so livid. Where is the fairness? Where is the respect?
pc must remain an instrument. No more.
I Love FaceBook!
Amazing how many negative comments there are in this hub but like the author, thats the point were making. like myself there are many that find the whole facebook Phenomenon not really worth your precious time ! if your desire is to talk to family or a partner through this platform then so be it ! but how many of you would bother if the means to post useless pictures dragged off the web,or some you tube video you spotted, or some link to something you think is funny but no one else does .if you could not do this on the site how many would use FB? fact is if it was just a communication platform no ONE would bother.so if you want to communicate there are telephones,or indeed an IM client,or better still footwear, go out and find some family or friends,we have been doing this basic thing for yrs !! evolution is not face book ... FIN....
to the anonymous catheter lady: I'm glad you guys aren't together cuz you sound like one crazy bitch.
Im neither a fan or a hater of fb. I don't think fb should be blamed for destroying relationship. Jealousy! destroys a relationship. If you can trust the person your with, you probely shouldn't be with them in the first place.
I just ended a ltr and formed a nice friendship with the ex . But fb messed all that up . I found my ex's fb page , wow the bs she was tossing. Everything was 1/2 truths and omissions. 6 years together & I only got mentioned once by name after we "got hostile".
eve 2 years ago
So true... I know people who have problems with FB because of the way it allows people to 'see' what you are doing all the time. It causes a lot of unnecessary misunderstandings among couples.